Have you ever noticed how difficult it is to develop an ability when you concentrate on it?  I’m not referring to becoming aware of a problem and solving it, but something which often takes place when you do so.

If you have a problem and think about it all the time, you are likely to create more of a problem.  This is because you add stress and other variables into the actual path to reaching the solution.  Instead of just realizing what you have to do and taking action, you are taking unnecessary steps to finding a simple solution.

You may have heard before of a process in which you “take a few steps back,” in order to solve a problem.  This tends to work because you are in fact separating yourself and the problem.  In turn, you are taking you and your emotions out of the equation and leaving a problem and a solution.  It might seem like a simplistic view, but most if not all problems really are that simple.

Do you ever have those times in life were it feels like everything is leading up to on day or a certain moment?

Recently I got to thinking about this feeling and what might cause it.  Decisions in life are what make you who you are.  How you choose to go about life and how you react to events around you- they are all decisions.

It’s not always a yes or no decision.  Often times we choose not to answer questions or answer to events in our life.  This is where we find it best to complain about the actual event instead of fixing it.  So the decision will lingerer over our head as we go about our day until it is answered.

When you start answering to these desires and decisions, you begin to notice change.  Let’s say that you decide to quit your job.  So you start looking for a new job, and just so happen to find the ideal job that fulfills your needs.  All of the sudden, you notice other things in your life are beginning to coincide with this decision.  Maybe the holiday season was nearing and you just noticed that it is upon you.  Of course it comes with a load of decisions in it’s self that must be made in a time critical manner.

I don’t believe it is something happening which is out of your control.  That is to say, I don’t think that events just pop up and just so happen to have a common deadline.  However, I do believe that we subconsciously notice other changes and accommodate our life to them.  Almost as trigger to force the change we want to see through.  Let’s take a look back at the holiday example again.  In the back of your mind you know that the holiday season is nearing.  You are also not happy with your job.  So you use one event to spur another into action.

Another reason you might notice the common change is the simple fact that they are all tied together more closely than you might think.  Take for example something like money.  It affects almost everything that a lot of people do in their everyday life.  From your job to your car, the money is what is connecting them all together.  The same can be said for happiness and how you feel about your life.

Whether or not this is a good or bad thing to do in our daily lives is not for me to decide.  All I am doing is observing something interesting that I noticed in my own life.

Have you ever sat down, or stood up and pondered what gives you inspiration.  This has always been a mystery, at least to me, as to how I get these feelings.

One night I was sitting at my computer, listening to music, when a thought created what felt like a spark inside my head.  The feeling actually began to spread from my head to my arms.  After which it extended to my chest and my legs.  I can only compare this feeling to the type of chill you get when the hair stands up on the back of your neck.  Whatever it was that created feeling, you know it is there.  Looming like a newly found key to that question that had remained unanswered.

How do you get to this state?  I don’t think there is an easy answer for this question.  The main reason is because it is different for everyone at different times.  Sometimes music might trigger the thoughts.  Maybe even a walk in the park along side the river will give your mind that extra push that it needs.  Needless to say, all of these things have one thing in common- they allow your mind to fly without restraints.  So it doesn’t matter what you do, as long as you are letting you mind take a load off and giving it room to breath.

Whether you are an adult with an elderly parent, or just an old guy playing Jenga, you have questions about getting old. Even though I am only in my twenties and completely confident that when my mother and father grow old and need assistance I will not send them away, this site does have good answers.

Maybe you just want to test the waters and see what a nursing home has to offer. The good, bad, and ugly are all talked about on a forum for the site. There is also some good general information floating around the links at the top navigation of the site.

Plus, there is a picture of the man in a wheel chair which makes me wonder who is going to pick up all of those Jenga pieces when it does and indefinitely will fall…

**update** I just laughed when I realized the image was animated and did show the Jenga tower falling.

If you have dealt with Pay Per Post, then you know how difficult it can be to get approved.  However, if you have worked with other related but less popular businesses then you know where I am coming from.  So here is my story…

A few weeks ago I figured I would start down a path of monetizing ThoughtSponge.com.  Little did I know I would be sitting on my hands for weeks to see any result from the initial registrations I had made.  So day one of this journey I registered for Pay Per Post and also Smorty.  To my surprise, only a day later I see an approval from Smorty stating that I have in fact been approved.  After that I got a little antsy and figured that Pay Per Post would be as quick.  But as you would have guessed, things didn’t go as planned.

Pay Per Post was completely dead to me, or I was dead to it for about two weeks.  Their process has you wait after you have entered some code on your site for approval which may take, “a few days.”  So I sat back and figured that a few days wasn’t incredibly too long for a site that seemed to have a ton of requests and users.  As the days passed and turned into weeks, my vision of a very efficient business turned into one guy at a laptop manually approving each blog at a time.  Whether or not this is how the business is run doesn’t really matter.  What does matter is the e-mail I received once I prompted Pay Per Post for an answer…

I fire an e-mail to Pay Per Post and again I wait.  A few days later I get a response stating that their was a problem with some new coding or update that they were doing and hey (you guessed it) I’d have to wait a few more days.

At what seemed like the end, there was and still is another problem.  It seems that after a thorough review of this site.  From top to bottom, banner to footer, and post one to post… here I guess, Pay Per Post has shot me down.  Pay Per Post describes this blog as having followed or contributed to the following activities, ”payment from online contests, lotteries, pyramid schemes.”  It makes me feel like a criminal.  Perhaps I will flee the country, but for now I am back to resolving a lengthy problem with a company that has horrible customer service.

Conclusion

Expect only great customer service if you are paying for something.  For example, my hosting company for this site practically sits with their e-mail open and ready to e-mail me back before I even have a problem.  On the other hand, Pay Per Post puts you in queue of 200 or more people and takes days to answer a simple question.  Every time I deal with a company like this starting out, I always have to ask myself whether or not this will be the norm.

So here I am awaiting the Pay Per Post “ticket system” to get done updating so I can wait once again.  Will Pay Per Post create a new Postie, or an angry Anti-Postie on a destructive campaign?